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LSU Agricultural Center November 9, 2007. Self-Assessment Inventory. Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120 . Being Okay Just Isn’t Enough!.

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lsu agricultural center november 9 2007
LSU

Agricultural Center

November 9, 2007

Self-Assessment Inventory

5253 Dijon Dr., Ste. D,

Baton Rouge 70808

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

being okay just isn t enough
Being Okay Just Isn’t Enough!
  • Are you a Faultfinding or Critical Person?
  • How Jealous and Competitive Are You?
  • How Controlling Are You?
  • Is Your Thinking Positive or Negative?
  • Past, Present or Future Focused?

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

slide3
What’s Your Performance Style ?Take this quiz to become more aware of your own on-the-job style by using the key below:

1. ___ It bothers me when requests are made of me at work.

2. ___ I prefer to work my own way to get the job accomplished, even if it takes longer.

3. ___ I’d rather keep my feelings to myself.

4. ___ I’m comfortable with my job duties and don’t look to increase them.

5. ___ Most people seem to tolerate conflict better than I do.

6. ___ Criticism bothers me.

7. ___ When asked to do things I dislike, it’s not a big deal because the request may be forgotten.

8. ___ Appearing successful is what counts.

9. ___ I wish I could change things but can live with the way things are.

10. ___I shouldn’t make my frustration or anger obvious.

11. ___Talking things over creates more problems than solutions.

12. ___I’m skeptical of new assignments and plans unless I had a hand in creating them.

13. ___I’ve felt the same concerns/disappointments before in similar situations.

14. ___If I know I’ll be getting feedback I might not like, I’d rather be absent that day.

15. ___I can do the job better if allowed to do it myself.

16. ___People at work are not to be trusted.

17. ___I feel pretty good knowing things that others don’t and having an advantage over them.

18. ___When I disagree, sarcasm works better than being direct.

19. ___I wish I felt more confident about my skills, my talents, myself.

20. ___It’s tough to tell others about my decisions most of the time.

21. ___When something requires quick action, I feel uneasy and pressured.

22. ___When new supervisors are hired, I feel extra cautious.

23. ___If someone isn’t doing his job right, I’ll keep quiet; let them find out the hard way.

24. ___If I make a mistake, I definitely do not want to discuss it with my supervisor.

25. ___I’m uncomfortable when someone talks to me about how to do my job better.

1. Not Like Me

2. Only Slightly Like Me

3. Somewhat Like Me

4. Very Much Like Me

Tally the total number of points and compare with the following key. ___________

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

your performance score
Your Performance Score
  • A score of 25 - 43: Your style is fairly direct and open to self-expression, adaptability, and new challenges. It’s unlikely that you hide much, and are not afraid to deal productively with problems.
  • A score of 44 – 62:Your style is somewhatdirect, but in some cases, you might shy away from or feel uncomfortable with confrontation. Be aware of this because remaining open and willing to adapt yields great things.

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

your performance score continued
Your Performance Score continued:
  • A score of 63 – 81: Your style is indirect. Confrontation makes you uneasy. If this sounds like you, it might be wise to talk this over with someone you trust and who can offer you honest feedback.
  • A score of 82 – 100: Your style is prettymuch indirect. While it may work for you, it’s likely that you’ve hidden some frustrations along the way because you sidestep people, situations, even challenges that might actually benefit you. Be open to assistance to boost your assertiveness and self-confidence.

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

say the right words at the right time
Say the Right Words at the Right Time
  • The wrong words said at the wrong time…

DISCOURAGE

  • The wrong words said at the right time…

FRUSTRATE

  • The right words said at the wrong time…

CONFUSE

  • The right words said at the right time…

ENCOURAGE

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

when it is time to speak and say the right things at the right time
When it is time to speak andsay the right things at the right time…
  • Be sensitive to Time and Place
  • Say it From the Heart
  • Recognize the

Power of the Right Words at the Right Time

Keep These Thoughts in Mind:

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

changing a life one person at a time
Changing a Life One Person at a Time

Change someone’s day --- or maybe even his entire life --- by saying the right words at the right time, from the heart.

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

listen with your heart
Listen with Your Heart
  • Focus on the Person
  • Unclog Your Ears
  • Listen Aggressively
  • Listen to Understand

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

focus on the person
Focus on the Person:
  • Avoid being preoccupied
  • Avoid preparing your answers while the other person is still talking
  • Avoid jumping in when they take a breath

Truly listening is exhausting!

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

focus on the person1
Focus on the Person
  • Herb Cohen, often called the world’s best negotiator, says, “Effective listening requires more than hearing the words transmitted. It demands that you find meaning and understanding in what is being said. After all, meanings are not in words, but in people.”

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

unclog your ears
Unclog Your Ears
  • Distractions – Phone calls, pagers, PDAs make good listening nearly impossible.
  • Defensiveness – If you view complaints or criticism as a personal attack, you become defensive.
  • Closed-mindedness – When you think you have all the answers, you close your mind.

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

also avoid
Also Avoid:
  • Projection– Automatically attributing your own thoughts and feelings to others prevents you from perceiving how they feel.
  • Assumptions – When you jump to conclusions, you take away your own incentive to listen.
  • Pride– Thinking we have little to learn from others is, perhaps, the most deadly of distractions to listening. Being full of yourself leaves little room for input from others.

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

listen aggressively
Listen aggressively:
  • Exhibit genuine understanding
  • Avoid “play listening”
  • Stay in the here and now
  • Focus on the other person’s point of view

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

ask yourself
Ask yourself:

How can I better understand what this person is feeling and thinking?

Remember: The best way to persuade is with your ears.

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

appreciate the good intentions of others
Appreciate theGood Intentions of Others

To err is human;

to forgive is not company policy.

---UNKNOWN

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

optimizing beliefs in good intentions
Optimizing Beliefs inGood Intentions
  • Believe the Best About People
  • See Things from Their Perspective
  • Give People the Benefit of the Doubt
  • Remember Their Good Days, Not Their Bad Ones

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

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Forgiveness is not an occasional act,

It is a permanent attitude.

---Martin Luther King, Jr.

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

practice the golden rule
Practice the Golden Rule :

By appreciating what others intend,

not only by what they do—

just as you would like for them

to do with you.

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

types of hidden anger at work
Types of Hidden Anger at Work
  • Backstabber
  • Avenger
  • Controller
  • Cynic
  • Eeyore
  • Blamer
  • Mute
  • Star

Tim Murphy, Ph.D Loriann Hoff Oberlin

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

things a leader must do
Things a Leader Must Do:
  • Listen to what bugs you
  • Don’t let negative things just sit there
  • Listen to your symptoms
  • Do not allow negative things to take up space in your brain or life

Get rid of Negative Energy

Make Room for the Good Stuff

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

words of wisdom
Words of Wisdom:

“A gossip is one who talks to you about other people. A bore is one who talks to you about himself. And a brilliant conversationalist is one who talks to you about yourself”

---William King

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

remember
Remember:

If I fail to believe the best in others, I will receive what I expect ---

The Worst!

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

references
References:
  • Maxwell, J.C., and Parrott, L. (2005) 25 Ways to Win with People. Nelson Business.
  • Brinkman, R. and Kirschner, R. (2006) Dealing with Difficult People: 24 Lessons for Bringing Out the Best in Everyone. McGraw-Hill.
  • Cloud, Henry. (2006) 9 Things a Leader Must Do. Thomas Nelson
  • Murphy, T. and Hoff-Oberlin, Loriann. (2005) Overcoming Passive-Aggression, How to Stop Hidden Anger from Spoiling Your Relationships, Career and Happiness. Marlowe & Company of New York
  • Helmering, D. W. (1996) Being Okay Just Isn’t Enough. National Press Publications
  • Sutton, R.I., (2007) The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t. Warner Business Books.
  • Maxwell. J.C. (2006) The Difference Maker: Making Your Attitude Your Greatest Asset
  • Johnson, R.R. (2006) Assertive Management: The Key to Effective Leadership. Wolfgang Press

Lori LeBlanc, LPC, LMFT 5253 Dijon Dr. Suite D, Baton Rouge, LA 70808 (225)768-8120

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