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1. When Sexual Abuse Happens to Boys Karen A. Duncan, M.A., LSW, LMFT
The Right To Be Safe, Inc.
2. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 2 What About Our Boys...
3. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 3 Purpose of The Program To raise awareness of the sexual abuse of boys.
To engage in a dialogue about the harm that is caused to boys who are sexually abused by females.
To acknowledge the female sex offender’s role in the perpetuation of sexual abuse by males.
Awareness of sexual offending in schools.
To discuss gender-specific prevention and treatment programs for boys.
4. Sexual Abuse of Boys Prevalence
5. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 5 Child Sexual Abuse Epidemic:
CSA occurs to 1:4 girls and 1:6 boys.
These statistics include children sexually abused by women and men.
Adolescents, primarily males, account for 40% of reported sexual abuse cases.
The majority of reported offenders are male.
6. Sexual Abuse of Boys Myths and Stereotypes
7. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 7 Cultural Bias & Stereotypes Males are reluctant to report sexual abuse due to the shame associated with male victimization.
Our culture emphasizes the stereotype that “males” cannot be victims...this stereotype extends to our boys.
8. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 8 Cultural Bias & Stereotypes The sexual assault of boys is likely to go unreported because of social consequences regarding masculinity (Williams, 1995; Elliot & Briere, 1994).
9. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 9 Cultural Bias & Stereotypes There is also the misconception that males cannot experience sexual abuse.
This is due to a lack of information about the human sexual response (Sarrel & Masters,2003).
10. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 10 Human Sexual Response When there has been a physical response to sexual abuse that is mislabeled as “pleasurable” rather than as a manipulated response to the sexual abuse by an offender then children, teens and adults will discount or minimize the sexual abuse offense (Duncan, 2004).
11. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 11 Male Sexual Victimization Myths Male-to-male child sexual abuse may cause boys to mislabel themselves as “gay”.
Cultural stereotype that “boys want sex” or that “boys are proud” when the offender is a female.
12. Sexual Abuse by Women A pathway to offending...
13. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 13 Female Offending of Boys When a woman sexually abuses a boy our culture tends to view this abuse as “harmless”.
There is also the attitude that “she is teaching him about sex” – when in fact she is teaching him about sexual abuse.
14. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 14 Response to male victims: Often male victims are “congratulated” and made to feel as though they are a “freak” if they report.
Young male victims are forced to perpetuate the distorted societal belief that “sex with an older woman is the ultimate teen male fantasy” or so the fairytale is told.
15. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 15 Misuse of Language in the Media Journalists will often refer to sexual abuse by women on boys as:
“an illegal relationship”
“a teacher-student sex affair”
“a blonde bomb shell”
“an affair with his teacher.”
“having sex with a student”.
16. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 16 Female Sex Offenders When we add the view that if the female sex offender is also thoughts to be “young and attractive” then the male victim is even encouraged to feel “special” that he was chosen by the offender to be her “sexual partner”.
17. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 17 Sandra “Beth” Geisel
18. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 18 Sandra “Beth” Geisel She was photographed in an “attractive manner” when compared to photographs of men who are arrested on suspicions of sexual abuse.
Photo appeared August 13, 2005.
New York State.
42 years old, mother of 4.
3rd degree rape of a 16 year old boy.
4 other male teenage students.
19. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 19 Sandra “Beth” Geisel Her attorney presents her as the victim:
“There are some factors here where a reasonable person might think she was taken advantage of…when Geisel had sex with the boy at her home, she was too drunk to give her consent, so she couldn’t have raped him.”
20. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 20 Tennessee Pamela Rogers being escorted to jail (notice the pose).
Pleaded no contest to four counts of sexual battery with a 13 year old boy.
21. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 21 Mary Kay Letourneau In 1996 in Seattle, Washington Mary Kay Letourneau was convicted of second degree rape of her sixth grade student who was twelve years old at the time.
22. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 22 Letourneau’s Victim Photo of victim at age 12 . She first met her victim when he was 8 years old and she was his second grade teacher.
23. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 23 Debra Lafave Photos follow her progression as she was exposed for sexual abuse.
Sexual crimes against a 14 year old boy.
Planned and intentional: Had his 15 year old cousin drive her vehicle to Ocala, Florida while she sexually abused the boy in the back seat.
24. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 24 Pamela Diehl-Moore Judge Gaeta stated that:
“I really don’t see the harm that was done here and certainly society doesn’t need to be worried,” Gaeta explained. “I do not believe she is a sexual predator. It’s just something between two people that clicked beyond the teacher-student relationship.”
Question: What makes Judge Gaeta think he is an expert on female sexual offenders?
25. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 25 Pamela Diehl-Moore The judge also noted that “he had seen no evidence that the boy suffered any psychological damage from the ‘liaisons’ and that “maybe it was a way for him, once this happened, to satisfy his sexual needs,” Gaeta said.
26. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 26 Media Coverage of Case According to the journalist:
The ‘affair’ occurred in the summer of 1999, just after the boy completed the seventh grade.
Diehl-Moore took him back to her home, to commit the sexual abuse.
27. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 27 Pamela Diehl-Moore Diehl-Moore’s response: “I would never hurt anybody. I will never do this again. It was a lapse in judgment. I tried to help this boy in a way that he professed to me his family didn’t.”
Question: Does this sound like a rational person? How does sexual abuse help a boy?
28. What Men Tell Us A pathway to offending...
29. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 29 Denov (2004) (Journal of Interpersonal Violence) Male Victims of Females:
“As a man, I’m suppose to be the powerful one and the actions of women are not supposed to affect me. I’m always supposed to have the upper hand.”
“I took pride in the fact that I could turn on these young girls. I was already fully sexualized and there was a sense of pride.”
30. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 30 Denov (2004)(Journal of Interpersonal Violence) One of the men:
Trouble at school for touching girls.
Sexually abused his 9 year old sister.
Sexually assaulted two of his nieces.
Sexually assaulted two girls outside the family.
31. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 31 A 2004 Study by Denov (Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 19(10)) Another man made this connection:
“I escalated into exposing myself to young girls. I wanted to feel some kind of control, some kind of power…I wanted to hurt or shock the girls…That would fulfill a desire to want them to feel the same pain that I felt when I was sexually abused.”
32. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 32 Men Report: “…for a man to be a victim is an embarrassment.”
“A real man is not a victim.”
“A real man is always in charge.”
“A man who is a victim is a failure.”
“Because I am a male, I should be able to control women.”
33. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 33 Denov 2004 Study These interviews indicate boys hold long-term beliefs about what the sexual abuse did to their sense of masculinity and male identity when a victim by a woman.
Supports the theory that female offenders contribute to male offending attitudes, behaviors and beliefs.
34. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 34 Male Sex Offenders Relationship of male sexual abuse and victimization by women shows:
59% (1984,Petrovich and Templer)
66% (1979, Groth)
80% (1993, Briere and Smiljanich)
A 1989 study by O’Brien of male adolescent offenders abused by “females only” chose female victims almost exclusively.
35. Sexual Abuse in Schools What Are Schools Doing?
36. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 36 Sex Offenders in Schools Carol Shakeshaft from Hofstra University stated that “the number of abuse cases--- which range from unwanted sexual comments to rape--- could be much higher.”
37. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 37 Sex Offenders in Schools Her study estimates that 290,000 students experienced some type of sexual abuse by a school employee between 1991 and 2000.
She estimates that “the sexual abuse of students in schools is likely more than 100 times the abuse by priests.”
38. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 38 Sex Offenders in Schools 2002 U.S. Department of Education report in compliance with “No Child Left Behind”:
Between 6 percent and 10 percent of public school children across the country have been sexually abused or harassed by school employees and teachers.
39. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 39 Sex Offenders in Indiana Schools March 2004: A 20 year old Anderson, Indiana choir aide is charged with the rape of a 16 year old female student.
March 2004: IPS substitute teacher was caught “having sex” with a 15 year old student in a vacant classroom.
October 2005: IPS substitute teacher accused of e-mailing explicit photo of himself to a sophomore at Warren Central.
40. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 40 Sex Offenders in Schools Exploit and manipulate their position of power--- in particular may use charm, provide a child with attention and affection, or special privileges.
Majority of sex offenders are seducers of children and teens.
Sex offenders manipulate parents and others adults to gain their trust.
41. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 41 School Responses to Sexual Abuse Rely on statutory rape laws – very weak in prosecution.
Some states have specific laws banning sex between teachers and students.
An occasional in-service is provided.
No systematic response is enforced by schools.
42. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 42 What children need... Safe and caring Schools!! “I’m important!”
43. The Sexual Abuse of Boys Recommendations
44. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 44 Recommendations: Become aware of our own biases and myths regarding child sexual abuse.
Ask and talk about sexual abuse committed by females.
Report cases that we suspect and are disclosed to us.
Develop gender-based assessment, treatment and prevention for our boys.
Prevention programs in schools
45. Gender Series Karen A. Duncan 2006 45 What children deserve... The Right To Be Safe!
Adults who care...
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