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Attraction

Communication/ consolidation. Relationship continues. The life cycle of a relationship. Buildup. Deterioration and decline. Attraction. Ending. Important variables influencing attraction. Triggering factors: Proximity, Similarity, Erotic love etc….

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Attraction

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  1. Communication/ consolidation Relationship continues The life cycle of a relationship Buildup Deterioration and decline Attraction Ending Important variables influencing attraction Triggering factors: Proximity, Similarity, Erotic love etc… Social-exchange and equity: Communication, Self-disclosure, Communal concern, External supports Social-exchange and equity/inequity: Relative attractiveness of alternatives, Barriers to dissolution Low: Relationship in stable state High: Upset of deterioration and trauma of disruption High: Heady feeling of romantic love Emotion

  2. Relationship-Enhancing and Distress-Maintaining Attributions Relationship-Enhancing Attribution Distress-Maintaining Attribution Positive Event My partner takes me out to an expensive dinner My partner is sweet and thoughtful My partner took me out to write the cost off on taxes Internal, stable, global External, unstable, specific Negative Event Something unexpected must have come up My partner is always uncaring and selfish My partner forgot my birthday External, unstable, specific Internal, stable, global

  3. Background Attributions Marital Satisfaction Causal attributions (what lead to an event) Responsibility attributions (blame, accountability) Or another non-attributional factor: Relationship expectations (unrealistic) Procedure? Focus on attributions for negative events (Your spouse does not pay attention to what you are saying,” Your spouse criticizes something you do)

  4. Overall Conclusions and Interpretations Attributions cause or lead to marital satisfaction levels Are attributional styles being used rather than ones based on specific behavior Role of wife’s attributions: 1) negative attribution for spouse behavior, 2) negative behavior toward spouse, 3) her behavior impacts her assessment of relationship satisfaction, 4) husband’s behavior affected by wife’s behavior Wives’s attributions may be the barometers of marital satisfaction. Their attributions may influence their marital satisfaction across time, whereas husbands’ attributions only reflect their marital satisfaction Husband’s attributions not related to later marital satisfaction attributional usage; (less?) Expectations Attributions Relationship Satisfaction

  5. Social Equity Theory Loss of freedom, $, time restrictions, etc. • Costs (Inputs) • Benefits (Outputs) Companionship, sexual fulfillment, security, etc. • Comparison Level • (e.g., a standard) Other person in a relationship, yourself in the past, an ideal • Comparison Level for Alternatives Evaluation of the value of other partners

  6. Summary of Findings Inequity (under-benefitting) Low satisfaction and commitment (breakups likely) High satisfaction and commitment Low Inequity (under-benefitting) Commitment of females Relationship stability Greater alternatives (man & women) Breakups Satisfaction (men & women) Stability

  7. Liking Love Separate constructs or along a continuum? Liking Loving

  8. Sample Liking Scale Items When I am with _____, we are almost always in the same mood. I think that _____ is unusually well-adjusted. I would highly recommend _____ for a responsible job. In my opinion, _____ is an exceptionally mature person. I have great confidence in _____’s good judgment. I think that _____ is someone one of those people who quickly win your respect. _____ is one of the most likeable people I know. _____ is the sort of person whom I myself would like to be. I would vote for _____ in a class or group election.

  9. Sample Love Scale Items I would do anything for _____. I feel responsible for _____’s well being. I feel very possessive toward _____. If I could never be with _____, I would feel miserable. If I were lonely, my first thought would be to seek _____ out. I would forgive _____ for practically anything. In would greatly enjoy being confided in by _____. When I am with _____, I spend a good deal of my time just looking at him/her. I would be hard for me to get along without _____.

  10. Liking & Loving for Dating Partners and Same-Sex Friends IndexWomenMen Love for Partner 89.5 89.3 Liking for Partner 88.784.6 Love for Friend 65.355.1 Liking for Friend 80.5 79.1

  11. Interpersonal Relationship --- Newer Approaches • Individual subjective reactions to cues in an interaction • Active search/detection process for cues Relationships • Timing and sequencing of cues (e.g., baking a cake example)

  12. Interpersonal Relationship --- Newer Approaches (cont.) • Future possibilities • Strategies Thoughtsabout interpersonal interactions Evaluation of interaction as good, average, poor • Who is told? When they are told? • What is said? Why they are told? Narratives/storiesabout relationships • Difference in perceptions; memory for facts

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