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When Victims Offend: The Domestic Violence “Flip”. Jon McGregor, M.Sc., M.F.T. Calgary Counselling Centre & Community Crisis Society Coordinator: Male Victims of Domestic Abuse Program. Male Victims of Domestic Abuse Program. Partnership program (CCC – CCS)

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When victims offend the domestic violence flip

When Victims Offend: The Domestic Violence “Flip”

Jon McGregor, M.Sc., M.F.T.Calgary Counselling Centre & Community Crisis SocietyCoordinator: Male Victims of Domestic Abuse Program


Male victims of domestic abuse program

Male Victims of Domestic Abuse Program

  • Partnership program (CCC – CCS)

  • Enhancing access to resources for men and their families, affected by domestic abuse

    • Men experiencing any abuse, seeking support and change for themselves/kids/family

  • Counselling, Advocacy, Outreach


Objectives

Objectives

  • Clarifying the grey of domestic violence

  • Learn what to look for concerning victimization

  • Understanding the complexities of working with offending victims

  • Be aware of victimized men’s perception of working within the system


Overview

Overview

  • Examine statistics of abuse

  • Explore the dynamics of abuse (power)

  • Assessment: Identifying abuse direction

  • Working within the System

  • Useful interventions


Rates general social survey gss

Rates: General Social Survey (GSS)

Physical Abuse:

  • 7% total – 6% in males (546,000 men), 7% in females (653,000 women)

  • Stats Can 2009 – police reported 83% female victims, 17% male victims


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Rates: Meta Analysis (Archer ‘00)

  • Women slightly more likely to hit men, & to use violence more frequently

  • Men slightly more likely to inflict injuries

  • Note different types of samples: women’s refuge (e.g., shelter) vs community samples


Rates gss

Rates (GSS)

  • The majority of spousal violence is not an isolated event

    • 54% men said more than once

    • 11% men said 10x or more

  • 10% of victims seeking shelter support are men


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Rates (GSS)

  • Violence men experience (from female partners) is less frequently injurious

  • 19% of men reported being injured, 2% sought medical attention

  • Only 17% of men who have experienced abuse report to police, 20% to social services


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Rates: GSS

Emotional Abuse:

  • Men and women are equally likely to experience emotional abuse such as controlling

    (e.g., jealousy, knowing where the other is)


Turning point women who abuse

Turning Point: Women Who Abuse

video


Understanding domestic abuse

Understanding Domestic Abuse

  • Abuse starts with a dynamic, relating within the relationship in terms of power/control

  • Domestic abuse goes beyond physical

    • When emotional abuse is present, 10x risk for physical abuse

  • Myth: Perpetrators are physically bigger


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Understanding Domestic Abuse

Abuse isn’t just physical:

  • Compliance based on fear

  • Confusion, blurred sense of responsibility

  • Partner gets their way

  • Concern for children

  • Themes of control – imbalance of power


House of abuse

House of Abuse

Secrecy Denial

Isolationconfusion

Verbal

Emotional/Mental

Physical

Spiritual

Financial

Sexual

Power & Control


Power dynamics

Power Dynamics


Domestic abuse complexity

Domestic Abuse complexity

  • These statistics contradict the dominant discourse of men as perpetrators, not as victims.

    We are informed by these discourses, and we may be biased to ignore the male victim story (as real as it may be to that client)


The flip dv complexities

The “Flip”: DV Complexities

  • The unilateral approach insufficient

  • Struggle for control

  • Using violence after experiencing prolonged emo abuse

  • Karpman’s Triangle (conflict roles) – Blurred responsibility


Assessment the flip

Assessment: the Flip

  • Who’s afraid of whom? Patterns?

  • Minimizing use of emotional aggression, amplifying experience of physical aggression

  • Distinguish abusive from assertive behavior

  • Sensitivity to control & feeling out of control

  • Skepticism should “slow down” the description


Case example

Case Example


Kevin

Kevin


Themes emerging

Themes Emerging

  • Emotional: shame, hurt, confusion (e.g., of responsibility, multiplicity, emotions)

  • Masculinity as tightly tied to experience of control vs victimization

    • Migliaccio (2001)


Entitlement to offend

Entitlement to Offend

  • Taking matters into my own hands

  • I’ve put up with this garbage for long enough

  • This is just how family life goes (violence is “normal”)


Meaning of the system

Meaning of the “System”

  • What does the worker/educator/counselor MEAN to the offender

    • Suppressing the victim story

    • DV is an issue of power and control – vigilant to power in relationships

  • Playing the victim, the client may see the system as the problem (e.g., interfering)

  • Therapy as doing time


Supporting men

Supporting Men

Penetrating barriers to working with offenders

  • Believing his story

    • Mixed feelings (e.g., pain, sadness, shame, loss, anger)

    • Validating

  • Holding him accountable

    • The challenge to respect

    • Client-oriented focus of therapy


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Power Dynamics

Vulnerable

Victim

Rescuer

Persecuter

Caring

Assertive


Interventions

Interventions

  • Monitor personal biases

  • Asking the question

    • Note the importance of neutrality

  • Listen and validate


Interventions1

Interventions

  • GOALS:

    • Expose violence

    • Clarify responsibility

    • Elucidate and honor resistance

    • Contest blaming (pathologizing...) victims

      -Wade


Interventions2

Interventions

  • Invitations to Responsibility (Jenkins)

    • Strength focus

    • Assumption of positive values for relationships

  • Language of Non-Violence

    • Belief in clients’ desire for non-violence in intimate relationships


Conclusions

Conclusions

  • Domestic abuse isn’t black and white

  • Honoring the victim story can engage the client (when appropriate)

  • Hold the client accountable

  • Watch for power dynamics in the story as well as in the professional relationship


Safety planning cont d

Safety Planning (cont’d)

Safety planning may look different for men:

  • Concerned more for emotional safety than physical safety – time outs

  • Her use of objects may make the house unsafe

  • Monitoring personal messages

  • Risk of police disbelief, seen/charged as primary perpetrator

  • Are kids safe with mother?

  • Taking kids perceived/reported as kidnap


How you can help

How YOU can help

  • Know some resources

    • Calgary Counselling265-4980

    • Wheatland Shelter (CCS)934-6634

    • MDAOP691-5954

    • Men’s Crisis Line266-4357

    • CCASA237-5888

    • Kirby Seniors705-3250


Questions discussion

Questions/Discussion

Jon McGregor:[email protected]


When victims offend the domestic violence flip

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