T he W ellspring of J oy. Sue Bohlin www.suebohlin.com [email protected] “Whoever believes in Me. . .streams of living water will flow from within him.” John 8:38. Shame. Guilt: I did something bad Shame : I am something bad There’s something wrong with me. Shame.
“Whoever believes in Me. . .streams of living water will flow from within him.” John 8:38
“I am defective and I am afraid I will be rejected and abandoned.”
Fear: I am unacceptable
Antidote: God says I am accepted!
The healing for shame
is to experience grace
by making a choice
to receive God’s acceptance
as His gift.
“We are accepted wholesale. Accepted with no possibility of being rejected. Accepted once and accepted forever. Accepted at the ultimate depth of our being. We are given what we have longed for in every nook and nuance of every relationship.” --Louis Smedes
Not a primary feeling (sadness, grief, loss)
One response to legitimate negative feelings: “Poor me!”
Another response: trust God
Grief and sadness are not sinful
“Forgive and Forget”
Forgiving is not trust
Forgiving is not reconciliation
Forgiving does not mean what they did was OK.
Forgiving doesn’t mean the offender gets away with it.
Forgiveness means acknowledging the offense and then transferring the offender over to God in our hearts.
Forgiving someone means we deliberately choose to not to hold his offense against him and not to bring it up again.
Acknowledge the offense
2. Turn the person over to God to repay them