The Love Unit. The Lost Art of Courtship True Intimacy What happens when we don’t teach boys about sex? Ten tips for a great relationship. The Lost Art of Courtship.
Courtship is all about anticipation and deepening the popularity between lovers so that, when the time comes to ‘hit the sack’ we are more than ready.
Courtship offers an opportunity to shift out of our everyday
reality and plunge into pleasure.
When we court, we have a chance
to express that which we usually
keep hidden: tenderness, vulnerability.
desire, and devotion.
Romantic love demands courage: it asks that we get clear about how we feel and have the courage to put our hearts on the line.
Once we leap into courtship (our journey to loving another) we must be willing to do the work.
loved. We all want love and under-
standing, but we often confuse love
with desire. Love and desire are different things.
There are three kinds of intimacy: physical, emotional and spiritual.
Sexual or physical intimacy can’t be separated from emotional intimacy, we always feel some emotional intimacy when we’re sexual, even if we say we don’t.
We want to have real communication and mutual understanding.
When you love someone, you have to respect them, not only there mind but also their body. The mind and body are connected.
boys about their bodies, they have
to learn from other sources.
up to children to teach each other about their
bodies and sex. The other main teacher becomes
Gender conditioning via the boy code is the root of this issue. The boy code is the gender straight jacket that trains boys to distrust their intuition, emotions, sensitivity and relational capacity.
Most grown men are still stuck in an immature stage of development where deep down, they are hurt, scared, ashamed little boys. If no one taught these men mature, healthy masculine sexuality, it’s unfair to expect them to be any different.
He’s only able to go to a certain point intimately and sexually, and has no idea that sex could be a spiritual practice rather than just getting his rocks off.
feels most loved, and do your best to tell them in that way.
5. Tell others how fabulous your partner is.
6. When telling your partner that you love them, be specific.