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RELATIONSHIP nana aba mensah

RELATIONSHIP nana aba mensah. Definition. The state of being connected or related Association by blood or marriage; kinship The mutual dealings, connections, or feelings that exist between two parties, countries, companies, people, etc

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RELATIONSHIP nana aba mensah

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  1. RELATIONSHIP nana aba mensah

  2. Definition • The state of being connected or related • Association by blood or marriage; kinship • The mutual dealings, connections, or feelings that exist between two parties, countries, companies, people, etc • An emotional or sexual affair. (source: Collins Dictionary)

  3. Types of Relationships • Family (such as siblings and parents) • Friends • Romantic(boyfriends or girlfriends) • Professional (such as teachers, clergy or medical professionals) • Acquaintances(such as people you know and recognize in passing)

  4. HEALTHY VRS UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS • Features of healthy relationships • Individual identity and freedom • Encouragement and support • Respected Boundaries • Cooperation • Devoid of romance and sex • Trust • Communication • Respect for one another

  5. HEALTHY VRS UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS • Features of unhealthy relationships • Teasing or bullying • Feeling inferior • Lack of respect and trust • Angry outbursts • Coercion or peer pressure • Unreasonable demands • Humiliation/intimidation • Over-dependence

  6. BENEFITS OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS • Know ourselves better • Develop as individuals and as a group as well as build self esteem • Grow emotionally • Communicate and maintain meaningful bonds with other people • Have fun • Gives an opportunity to interact and learn from different people

  7. Romantic Relationship(Boy/Girl Relationship) • A boy/girl relationship is a kind of romantic relationship which usually starts when a boy and a girl meet and they develop an attraction or a feeling of LIKENESStowards each other. • This relationship is not based on LOVE but LUST, INFATUATION or like. • The latest development in schools is Teacher-Student Sexual/ Romantic Relationships.

  8. When/how does students romantic relationships start • During sports, games, other entertainment functions. • Serving in various capacities as leaders. • During religious programmes, camp meetings. • During school debates and quizzes. • Joining clubs and societies. • Recommendation and introduction by friends. • Social media

  9. How does teacher/student romantic relationships start • Some tutors are bold to propose to you while others do not. • Others start by taking keen interest in your academic work and even offer assistance in academic work. • When you approach them for counselling on various issues. • Some also try and give gifts of cash, material things and food items.

  10. How does teacher/student romantic relationships start • Sometimes they give you grades and marks you do not deserve. • They continue to do this until they win your trust and you become dependent on them. • They start their advances after winning your confidence.

  11. Why TEENAGERS enter romantic relationships • Inferiority complex. • To satisfy emotional and sexual urges. • Peer pressure and to have a sense of belonging to a group. • To find love, affection and respect.

  12. Why TEENAGERS enter romantic relationships • To gain recognition and acceptance. • Curiosity. • Financial and material gains.eg mobile phones, tablets, laptops, etc. • Dysfunctional family structure caused by divorce or separation of parents.

  13. Negative effects of boy/girl romantic relationships • Academic work will decline. • You cannot fulfil your dreams. • It leads to immorality (fornication, adultery, masturbation, using sex toys, kissing, etc) “Can a man put fire in his laps without his clothes being burnt?” Proverbs 6:27 • You can be sexually abused.

  14. Negative effects continued • You will loose your virginity and live with the guilt forever. • You can become pregnant, have STI (eg. HIV/AIDS) and other reproductive health issues and die. • You will not get the love, fulfilment, respect and self worth you desire. • Trust between the two of you will diminish, even when you decide to settle down together in future (get married).

  15. Negative effects continued • This relationship is short lived, you change partners regularly. • Unhealthy rivalry and suspicion which leads to hatred and violence. • You cannot concentrate in class and also loose respect for your teachers and peers. • You will not sit up for your studies because the teacher will give you marks and good grades you have not worked for.

  16. Negative effects continued • You are not matured enough to distinguish between love, lust and infatuation so you easily fall for anything. • Your interest in these lovers will change as you age. • These relationships can never end in marriage whether its with your peers or adults. • You can become a pre mature parent.

  17. Negative effects continued • You will not be able to master the skill of managing your sexual urges and desires, you will grow up to be an adulterer. • You can become a school drop out or be rusticated by school authorities if found out. • If this relationship involves a teacher, he/she can loose their jobs and face other legal charges. • You can also be embarrassed by the spouses of the teachers you are involved with.

  18. How do I come out of this unhealthy relationship? • Make a personal decision to stay away from any romantic and sexual relationshipwhile still in school. • Rededicate your life to God and plead the blood of Jesus to cleanse you. • Develop a personal relationship with God through daily devotions. • Seek advice from your Pastor / a Professional Counsellor / any Matured Christian.

  19. How do I come out of this unhealthy relationship? • Set boundaries for yourself and don’t compromise them • Be conscious of your outfits, they stir up emotions • Beware of the kind of music you listen to • Join a good Christian group and stay committed to its activities and programmes. eg. PENSA, SU, etc. • Occupy yourself with a hobby that will take your mind off romantic relationships and sexual activities, don’t stay idle. Eg. Reading, exercising, biking, joining a singing group, etc.

  20. How to resist romantic advances made towards you • Learn to say NO to any advances made towards you while still in school. • Dissociate yourself from persons / groups that mount pressure on you to get involved in romantic relationships and get involved with you sexually. • Report such people to the appropriate authorities. (School authorities or Parents)

  21. How to resist romantic advances made towards you • Make friends with people who share your principle of abstinence until marriage. “Do not be deceived, bad company corrupts good character” 1 Corinthians 15:33 • Have a matured Christian role model whom you speak with occasionally and give you godly counsel. • Understand that sexual urges are normal with every human, and getting sexually active will not reduce such feelings and emotions or eradicate them totally.

  22. Conclusion • Ecclesiastes 3:1 (Message Bible): There is an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth • Gen. 2:24 (ESV): Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. So note it, it is man joining the wife NOT the boy joining the girl. • You are an agent of transformation and an example in the generation, don’t follow the crowd. • Learn to FLEE like Joseph in the house of Potiphar and do not COMPROMISE just as Samuel did not in the house of Eli.

  23. Understand that you are in the school for an ACADEMIC CERTIFICATE not a MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE. • Don’t ever feel inferior or unimportant (Psalm 139:14a (ESV): I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made). • Be content with what your parents or guardians provide for you(1 Timothy 6:6, But godliness with contentment is great gain) • Be vigilant and sensitive to the prompts of the Holy Spirit and don’t fall for the schemes of either your peers or other adults • Your body is the temple of God, take good care of it– (1 Cor 6:19 NIV: Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit…)

  24. Love yourself and the way you look. • Know that God loves you no matter what. (Jeremiah 31:3 NIV: The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love…) • Don’t be overconfident, trust in the Lord and be wise • Human needs are insatiable, so it is with your emotions and sexual needs, learn to be self controlled. • You are a motivation and role model for someone in Christianity, dare to be different from the crowd

  25. Allow Yourself To Grow. BoyTeenYoung Man Husband Father Girl TeenYoung LadyWifeMother

  26. Love is patient so wait • All things come to him who waits-provided he knows what he is waiting for-Woodrow T Wilson • Things may come to those who wait- Abraham Lincoln • What we are waiting for is not as important as what happens to us while we are waiting, trust the process- Mandy Hale

  27. The literal meanings of the genitals in our local dialect should speak volumes to us; • Girl – VAGINA which means wait • Boy – PENIS which means go and hide

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