Preparation; Keys to Reunion Success. Jean Provance, LCSW, DAPA American Adoption Congress National Conference April 13, 2013. Goals.
Jean Provance, LCSW, DAPA
American Adoption Congress National Conference
April 13, 2013
“I must not fear.Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.Only I will remain.”-Frank Herbert’s Dune SeriesFear
“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems -- not people; to focus your energies on answers -- not excuses.”- William Arthur WardAnger
Guilt is anger directed at ourselves - at what we did or did not do. Resentment is anger directed at others - at what they did or did not do.
“When that rock is lifted, the earth is lighter; the hand that bears it is heavier. When it is thrown, the circuits of the stars respond, and where it strikes or falls the universe is changed. On every act the balance of the whole depends.” -Ursula K. Leguin “The Farthest Shore”
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