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To print this bulletin board ondate and acquaintance rape…Under file hit the print function, and in the “print what” box, select slides, and click “OK”… you’ll be good to go! A lot of information options have been provided…you may want to select and print the information that you will use on your bulletin board slide by slide.Decorate this bulletin board with pictures of men, women and couples that you have cut from magazines.Enjoy the bulletin board…


You say they re just a friend

You say they’re just a friend….

or is it more than that?



Toxic intimacy

Toxic Intimacy

Obsessing with finding someone to love

Need for immediate gratification

Pressuring partner for sex or commitment

Imbalance of power

Power plays for control

No-talk rule, especially if things are not working out

Manipulation

Lack of trust


Healthy intimacy

Healthy Intimacy

Development of self as a first priority

Desire for long-term contentment; relationship develops step by step

Freedom of choice

Balance and mutuality in the relationship

Compromise, negotiation or taking turns at leading

Sharing wants, feelings, and appreciation of what your partner means to you

Directness

Appropriate trust (know that your partner will behave according to his/her fundamental nature)


Cycle of violence
Cycle of Violence

Do you break it or keep it going?

Phase 2

=

Tension

Phase 1

=

Loving

Phase 3

=

Violence



Men who have a family history of observing or experiencing abuse are more likely to inflict the same abuse and violence that they witnessed. (Cycle of Abuse)


Women who observed abusive behavior as youth will more than likely choose mates who are abusive.(Cycle of Abuse)


Characteristics of unhealthy relationships
Characteristics of Unhealthy Relationships

  • Giving advice but not accepting it

  • Having difficulty in reaching out and in asking for support and love

  • Giving orders; demanding and expecting much from others

  • Trying to “get even” or to diminish the self-esteem or power of others

  • Being judgmental; put-downs that sabotage the other’s success; fault-finding; persecuting; punishing

  • Holding out on others; not giving what others want or need


Characteristics of unhealthy relationships1

Characteristics of Unhealthy Relationships

Making then breaking promises; causing others to trust us and then betraying that trust

Putting the other in a no-win situation

Attempting to change the other (and unwillingness to change the self)

Attacking the other when he/she is most vulnerable

Abusing others verbally or physically

Showing bitterness, grudge-holding, or self righteous anger


Characteristics of unhealthy relationships2

Characteristics of Unhealthy Relationships

Being aggressive and defining it as assertiveness

Needing to win or be right

Resisting stubbornly or being set in one’s own way

Having difficulty admitting mistakes or saying “I’m sorry”

Giving indirect, evasive answers to questions

Defending any of the above behaviors


Sex

  • Involves mutual, sober consent

  • Can be a very emotional act for someone

  • Can lead to unwanted pregnancy, STDs, AIDS, or other health risks



The first 2 weeks of the fall semester are high risk times for date and acquaintance rape

Fact:

The first 2 weeks of the fall semester are high risk times for date and acquaintance rape.


Most women know their attacker
Most women know their attacker

  • The majority of all rapes of women are known as acquaintance rapes, in which the victim knows her attacker. Offenders known to the victim perpetrate approximately three-quarters of all lone-offender sexual violence against women.

    (Bureau of Justice Statistics)


The highest risk of rape
The highest risk of rape..

  • Women who are most often raped are between 16 and 24 years of age. Since this is the period when most women are dating, they are particularly vulnerable to being a victim of date rape. The peak rate of victimization occurs in the 16-19 year old age group….does this age sound familiar to most 1st year women?


Rape on campuses
Rape on campuses

  • Eight in ten college rapes involved someone the attacker knew, more than half involved a date. Eighty-six percent of these rapes occurred in off-campus housing or in a car, prior to the rape 42% had been virgins. (Rape on Campus: Facts and Measures)


Who to believe
Who to believe?

  • According to FBI statistics, only 1-2% of reported assaults are suspected to be false, which is approximately the same rate for false reports for other crimes.



Evaluate the stereotypes that you have about how men and women should behave

Evaluate the Stereotypes that you have about how men and women should behave…

Men…don’t believe that women should be submissive to you, or that because she dressed a certain way she wanted to have sex with you.


Too much booze and you may lose… women should behave…75 to 90 % of all acquaintance rapes are motivated by alcohol and other drugs

Alcohol makes it harder for women to assess the risks involved, and it effects the ability of men and women to make responsible decisions. It also tends to make men more aggressive.


Communicate expectations involving sex

Communicate expectations involving sex… women should behave…

Dating partners do not really know each others expectations regarding sex. Sexual desires should be communicated clearly and directly by both individuals as early as possible.


Some possible reactions from victims
Some possible reactions from victims women should behave…

  • Fear and anxiety

  • Re-experiencing the trauma

  • Increased arousal - jitters, shakes, etc.

  • Avoidance

  • Anger

  • Feelings of guilt and shame

  • Depression

  • Negative self image


Mencanstoprape org
Mencanstoprape.org women should behave…

  • Men Can Stop Rape (formerly Men’s Rape Prevention Project) empowers male youth and the institutions that serve them to work as allies with women in preventing rape and other forms of men’s violence. Through awareness-to-action education and community organizing, we promote gender equity and build men’s capacity to be strong without being violent.

  • MCSR is an outgrowth of D.C. Men Against Rape, a volunteer profeminist collective founded in 1987 by a handful of men seeking to raise their own and the community’s consciousness about men’s violence against women. In 1997, MCSR incorporated as a expanding on it original mission to increase men’s involvement in efforts to end men’s violence.

  • Now, we are a concerned community of men and women of all ages, from many walks of life, working locally and nationally for peace, equity and gender justice. We are men and women who find strength in compassion and nonviolence and who strive to support young men who are courageous enough to challenge the “rape culture” in which we live.

  • We do not believe men’s violence is inevitable. We believe that rape, battering, and other forms of men’s violence are learned behaviors, choices that men make to exert power and control over others that are reinforced by a society that defines manhood through domination.

  • We believe that men can unlearn these damaging lessons and live peacefully with women and other men. To do so, however, we must redefine what it means to be a man.


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