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Understanding Generation ‘Y’. Presented by Kirri Campbell. WELCOME PARENTS!. Who am I? What we will be talking about today? Could all the parents with perfect teenagers please leave the room now!. ACTIVITY Could all the parents who were perfect as a teenager please stand up?.

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Understanding generation y

Understanding Generation ‘Y’

Presented by Kirri Campbell


Welcome parents

WELCOME PARENTS!

  • Who am I?

  • What we will be talking about today?

  • Could all the parents with perfect teenagers please leave the room now!


Activity could all the parents who were perfect as a teenager please stand up

ACTIVITYCould all the parents who were perfect as a teenager please stand up?


Self esteem generation

Self-Esteem Generation


Comparing gen x to gen y

One pair of jeans

Rode our bike everywhere

Presents only at Christmas

Sat together at dinner

Don’t answer back

We had ‘alone time’

Have lots of jeans

Mum drives us everywhere because it’s too dangerous

Presents when we are good or just need something

70% of families eat separately (more often than not with the TV on)

Comparing Gen ‘X’ to Gen ‘Y’


Communicating with generation y

Understand their interests

Be honest

One rule for all

Negotiate

Listen

Show no judgement

Be a role model

Pick your moment

Be calm

Make time to communicate

Set clear boundaries

Focus on the positive

Communicating with Generation ‘Y’


Teenagers think differently

Teenagers Think Differently


Listening tips

Listening Tips

  • Rehearsing: spending your mental energy on preparing what you will say in response

  • Judging:  "writing off" a person as stupid or incompetent or uninformed and therefore not paying close attention to what they are saying

  • Identifying: relating everything the person says back to yourself so that the conversation becomes focused around you

  • Advising: trying to solve a problem or give advice without finishing listening to what the other person is saying

  • Sparring: being too quick to disagree or create an argument with the speaker

  • Derailing: constantly changing the topic of conversation (particularly when you aren’t winning)

  • Dreaming:  "checking out" or daydreaming rather than focusing on what the speaker is saying

  • Historian: Bringing up ancient history, stay in the moment, shows that you are listening.


How not to communicate with gen y

How Not to Communicate with Gen ‘Y’

  • Criticizing

  • Commanding

  • Advising

  • Threatening

  • Diagnosing

  • Moralising

  • Reassuring

  • Excessive questions

  • Let me tell you my story..

Question: Are you sure you really have all the right answers?


Teenage priorities

Teenage Priorities

  • Social Hierarchy

    • Social life

    • Partners

    • Friends

  • Self Image

    • Who shall I be today?

  • Public Image

    • How do friends/strangers perceive me?

    • Need to be viewed as capable and independent (Grown-up)

  • Love my family


Phases of communication

PHASES OF COMMUNICATION

  • Learning Phase (0-5 years)

    • Haven’t yet developed language.

      • Ie. Tantrums, yelling, crying, etc…

  • Independent Phase (6-12 years)

    • They really want to be independent yet desperately need you as support

      • Ie. Don’t, I can do it

  • Roll-the-eyes Phase (13-18 years)

    • Believe that life is like watching a “Learn to Surf” DVD, then believe that once it is over I will know how to surf!

      • Ie. Yeh, Yeh, I know how to do it!


I statements

“I” STATEMENTS

  • “You really annoy me when you constantly interrupt me and I want you to stop it now.”

    VS.

  • “I feel very frustrated when you constantly interrupt me. What I would like is to complete my sentence uninterrupted then listen to your opinion.”


Brady bunch v s neighbours

Brady Bunch V’s Neighbours

  • The Home and Away Day

    • Romance

    • Intrigue

    • Sadness

    • Confrontation

    • Conflict

    • Gossip

Does Home & Away and Neighbours accurately reflect life in the real world?


Parenting styles

Parenting Styles


Parenting styles1

Parenting Styles


Conflict resolution

CONFLICT RESOLUTION

  • Assertive

    • Standing up for yourself and your rights, while respecting others.

    • Check others’ feelings & come up with collaborative solutions

  • Aggressive

    • Standing up for yourself using violent language and/ or behaviour to dominate the other person

    • Blame, threaten or discount the other person

  • Passive

    • Allowing those around you to dictate your behaviour; not standing up for yourself

    • Remember YOU are the Parent!


The teenage brain

The Teenage Brain

  • What may appear obvious to you is not obvious to a teenager.

  • Brain is not finished developing

  • Can’t predict consequences

  • Communication is still cementing


What is challenging

Not registering

Testing boundaries

Troubled

Unimpressed

Self-harming

Lying

High phone bills

Lack of Appreciation

Depression

Dropping out of School

Older partners

Internet overuse

Various Addictions

Disobedience

Disrespect

WHAT IS CHALLENGING?


Top three biggest mistakes made by parents

Top Three Biggest Mistakes Made By Parents

Best Friend Model

  • Does a best friend ground you?

  • Does a best friend put boundaries on behaviour?

  • How do we define “being cool?”


Top three biggest mistakes made by parents1

Top Three Biggest Mistakes Made By Parents

Consistency

  • Don’t punish yourself when punishing a teen

  • Follow through, follow through, follow through.

  • Make appropriate boundaries and stick to it.


Top three biggest mistakes made by parents2

Top Three Biggest Mistakes Made By Parents

The Let me fix it model

  • Question....

    Are you raising a child or an adult?

  • Answer....

    An adult, so teach responsibility!

    Pose questions rather than answers


So how do we resolve the challenging behaviour

So How Do We Resolve The Challenging Behaviour?


Understanding generation y

Tips…

  • Gold Fish Model (All RSPCA Sympathisers please leave the room now)

  • Parties

  • Mobile Phones

  • Messy bedrooms

  • Cold Sausages


Prevention mode

PREVENTION MODE

  • Suspect that there might be a problem

  • Stories not ringing true

  • Bad gut feeling

  • Not yet in trouble with drugs, alcohol or the police


Warning signs

WARNING SIGNS

  • SECRETIVE/ GREATER PRIVACY

  • REGULAR/ SUDDEN ANGER

  • MISSING CURFEW

  • CHANGE IN PEER GROUP/IDENTITY

  • STOLEN MONEY

  • MOOD SWINGS

  • DROP IN GRADES

  • EXCESIVE SLEEPING


Crisis mode

CRISIS MODE

  • Teen is abusing drugs and or alcohol

  • Teen has been arrested

  • Teen has been kicked out of school

  • Teen has left home with no warning

  • Teen has self-harmed


10 things parents forget with teens

10 THINGS PARENTS FORGET WITH TEENS

1. Lecture rather than discuss

2. Ignore the obvious

3. Not following through on rules and consequences

4. Setting unreasonable goals

5. Pointing out only the negative, expecting only the positive


10 things parents forget with teens1

10 THINGS PARENTS FORGET WITH TEENS

6. Leaving the education ‘up to someone else’

7. Giving up on family time – too much hassle

8. Don’t burdening your teen with your problems. Allow your adolescent to remain a teenager.

9. Not taking the time to know what’s up with adolescents today

10. Fathers believing that parenting is woman’s work.. “Call me when there is a real problem”


What to do now

WHAT TO DO NOW?

  • KEEP THE DOOR OPEN AND ENCOURAGE OPEN COMMUNICATION

  • GET HELP, PHONE ANYONE AND EVERYONE, UNTIL YOU ARE SATISFIED

  • MAKE SURE YOU ARE STILL LOOKING AFTER YOU


Resources questions

RESOURCES & QUESTIONS

  • MERCY RECONNECT 1800 800 046

  • Triple-P – Positive Parenting Program (1800-654-432)

  • Parents Leadership Institute www.parentleaders.org

  • Children, Youth and Women’s Health www.cyh.sa.gov.au

  • Centrecare

    Any Questions?


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