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1. Chapter Six Communication: Enriching Your Sexuality
2. Agenda Review Importance of Communication
Discuss Gender Differences in Communication
Describe Effective Communication
Discuss Influence of Communication on Sexuality
3. Class Exercise: Sex Instruction How did you find out about sex? What were you told? What was your reaction? Was the information accurate?
Are you comfortable talking about sexuality? Was you family comfortable discussing the subject?
What did your parents tell you about sex? Were you ever aware of your parents sexual activity?
How would you tell a child about sex? When would you begin to talk to them about sexuality?
How does the way we learn about sex as children influence the way we respond sexually as adults?
4. Importance of Communication to Human Sexuality
5. The Importance of Communication Good communication is related to happier, more satisfied couples and increases the probability the relationship will last
Communication cultivates emotional intimacy, understanding, love
Relationship problems often due to poor communication, creating anger & frustration
Poor communication skills
Lack of self-disclosure
Poor listening skills
6. Variables Associated with Communication It takes some learning to communicate
Research suggests that women and men communicate differently
Types of communication: More than words
7. Aspects of Communication Communication with others involves three goals:
get the job done send the message
relational goal maintain a relationship
identity management goal portray our self image
8. Class Exercise: College Students Communiction about Sexuality Research suggests that college-aged couples find it easier to do it rather than to talk about doing it?
What are the implications for contraception?
What are the implications for sexual satisfaction?
What are the implications for sexuality education?
9. Gender Differences in Communication
10. Gender Difference in Communication Conversations with the opposite sex are typically harder than with same sex groups
Genderlects fundamental differences in how men and women communicate
Men see a hierarchical world with need to maintain status; may interpret comments as challenges to defend; report-talk
Women: a relational world to connect in and avoid isolation; rapport-talk
11. Gender Difference in Communication Each believes the other sex interrupts more
Men are more likely to interrupt
Men tend to speak one at a time, and another comment is considered an interruption
When men interrupt they expect to be the primary speaker
Women use overlapping talk, where another interjects but does not take over in the conversation
12. Gender Difference in Communication Women and men differ in their topics of discussion
Male-typical talk: slang, money, business, time, space, quantity, destructive actions, motion, objects, hostile verbs
Female-typical talk: supportive, polite, expressive, home, family, feelings, evaluations, interpretations, psychological states
13. Gender Difference in Communication Women tend to soften opinionated statements through the use of (not in all cultures):
14. Explanations for Gender Differences in Communication Biological
Cross-cultural communication grow up in different subcultures and learn different communication rules; begins in same-sex play groups
Cultural orientations, gender, & modes of communication are interconnected
15. Types of Communication: More Than Words Nonverbal communication
comprises the bulk of our communication
is expressed in various cultural forms
adds to verbal communication
Can be less threatening than verbal, but also more likely to be misunderstood
Women are better at deciphering nonverbal communication, and use more eye contact, head nods, smiles, and touches than men
16. Types of Communication: More Than Words Computer mediated communication
Women are more expressive, use emoticons
Allows focus on emotional intimacy, rather than physical attraction
Online intimacy problematic if they become compulsive in their use of the internet
Online infidelity typically with people happy in a relationship; due to personality traits
17. Class Exercise: Overcoming Gender Differences When Discussing Sexuality Do you think that conversations between men and women are more difficult than same-sex conversations?
Research suggests that when women in a heterosexual relationship process a problem, their partners often try to solve the problem rather than just listen. This seems to create conflict.
What can men do to listen better?
What can women do to help?
Research suggests that married women are more likely to identify another woman as their best friend while men are more likely to identify their wife as their best friend. What are the implications for intimacy?
18. Effective Communication Giving/Receiving Feedback
19. Communicating More Effectively Make sure you and your partner have the time and energy to communicate well before you begin a conversation
Limit the use of tag questions, they can indicate uncertainty and be misunderstood
Pay attention to your and your partners nonverbal cues
20. Communicating More Effectively Self-disclosure deepens intimacy and feelings of love as you share and grow as a couple
It is critical in a healthy relationship
Women tend to self-disclose more
Too much disclosure too soon is risky
Asking for what you need
Many people are insecure about sex
Honesty is essential to avoid unhappiness
21. Learning to Make Requests Taking Responsibility for Our Own Pleasure:
The best way for us to get our needs met is to speak up with our requests.
Two individuals willing to communicate their desires and take responsibility for their own pleasure create an excellent framework for effective, fulfilling sexual sharing.
Making Requests Specific
Using "I" Language
22. The Fine Art of Listening Nondefensive listening without being defensive, focus attention on your partners concerns
Active listening nonverbal communication that assures your partner you are attentive
Eye contact, head nods, um hum
Know your partners buttons and avoid pushing them
23. The Fine Art of Listening When your partner is finished, summarize and validate their thoughts
Take caution in interpreting a message that may not be perceived correctly, but altered due to mood state or the state of your relationship with the person
Women listen for details, men listen for the bottom line and/or what action is required to resolve a situation
24. Enriching Your Sexuality Constructive Criticism
Talking with Your Partner about Sex
I Like You and I Like Myself
What Makes a Good Lover?
25. Delivering Criticism Be Aware of Your Motivation
Choose the Right Time and Place
Temper Criticism with Praise
Nurture Small Steps Toward Change
Avoid "Why" Questions
Express Anger Appropriately
Limit Criticism to One Complaint per Discussion
26. Receiving Criticism Empathize with Your Partner and Paraphrase the Criticism
Acknowledge a Criticism and Find Something to Agree With
Ask Clarifying Questions
Express Your Feelings
Focus on Future Changes You Can Make
27. Talking with Your Partner about Sex Most couples initiate and consent to sex nonverbally
It is difficult to talk about sex
Each persons desires are unique and need to be communicated
Good lovers know how to communicate and listen
28. I Like You and I Like Myself You need to feel good about yourself in order to be sexually healthy
The media creates the ideal body
Self-esteem is related to emotional and mental health
Having self-acceptance, autonomy, self-efficacy, and resilience will aid in maintaining good sexual relationships
29. What Makes a Good Lover? Sensitivity to their partners needs
Able to communicate own desires
Keep in mind that men and women can have different views of the same sexual behaviors and techniques
30. Class Exercise: War of the Roses How does communication influence intimacy?
Identify examples of gender differences in communication.